Wednesday, 8 October 2014

Joy in the Ordinary: Life Lessons from the School of Motherhood

It sounds so dull doesn't it? Finding joy in the ordinary. Its the sort of thing you'd expect to have been preached to a 1950s housewife. In many ways, modern society fights against it -

"Be extraordinary!"

"Change the world!"

"Make your life count!"

 And yet these words draw me in... they call to my soul and I want to live them, breath them, turn them over and over in my mind as I get on with the monotony of the everyday...

And when I step back, I realise its become one of my life goals. I remember the dark days when our Heidi was desperately ill and all I wanted, all I longed for, all I prayed for was to be ordinary.

I was desperate for the monotony of an ordinary life.

The extraordinary was costly. Painful. Lonely. And far too eventful for this desperate young mother to cope with.

And I think its probably true to say our journey with Heidi has changed me. I try every day to be thankful for the little things. Those boring, ordinary moments, that were so nearly taken away from us. How can you not be? How can I not praise God for every one of her snotty noses I wipe, every time she wakes up from a nap; rosy-cheeked and grumpy. Every time those little sisters play fight a step too far, and someone ends in tears.

Every tomato sauce stained top I have to wash, every dolly I have to redress, every story I have to read, every midnight cry I have to settle. All reminders of the beautiful gift of daughters. A gift we very nearly lost.

And so I seek daily to delight in the ordinary... to proactively seek to thank God for every task that I could label mundane, boring, monotonous, as well as the golden moments. And to nip any frustration, resentment, annoyance in the bud.

I fail. Daily.

I get annoyed. I shout at the kids. I over-react. I am ungrateful and anxious at times. And sometimes I can't quite bat away the "if onlys..."

But I preach this little phrase to myself daily.

Find joy in the ordinary.

It is the secret to a happy life.

"I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want.
I can do all things through Him who gives me strength"
- Philippians 4:12-13 -

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  1. Definitely a motto to live by, and i don't think it means that you can't also reach for the stars. You can be contented and happy in every day and still have things you want to achieve - and probably do them better for coming from such a solid foundation :)

  2. This is so beautiful Claire, and has really made me think today. Far too often I get caught up in trying to make life better, when actually we are so blessed already. What we have is pretty perfect. Thankyou for reminding me of that! Xx

  3. So simple Claire but such an important lesson to learn. Just beautiful. Thank you for sharing. It's so easy to forget and to move on isn't it? I know that you still live with this everyday but perhaps it is a gentle reminder? Let's not forget. Let's live life to the full, everyday, just as God intended. x x


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